Thursday, September 18, 2008

Is your relationship making you fat?


Seriously.

Are you in a long-term relationship? Have you gained weight? What IS this bullshit?

38 comments:

Amanda Wells said...

Yes, yes, and I have no idea. My husband eats a lot and likes to take me along for the ride, I'm assuming that's why.

Elaine said...

I hate where I'm at with my weight right now but I dont' think my husband has anything to do with it. I just have no willpower. And I love food! And wine. This comment is going nowhere. I just wanted to find a way to show how much love I have for decorno. SO MUCH LOVE! I may have had a wee bit too much to drink tonight. Have I told you that I hate Palin? Yes, "hate" is a strong word but after giving it some serious thought...it's true. I hate that dumb retarded bitch.

But I love you! And that's all that matters.

Anonymous said...

Hell yes I have. 10 lbs since the wedding. I shudder when I think I've become a stereotype.

Decorno said...

I love you, too Elaine!

I hate Palin, too. And I am not even going to say, "Oh, I really just don't like that she's unqualified and probably thinks dinosaurs are a myth and that if I knew her in person, I would probably like her." No. I wouldn't. I hate her. Hate what she is and what she stands for and that she has no secular part of her brain.

I am with you. I just have no willpower. I do sometimes, but it's on or off. No in between. On wagon or off wagon. Period.

In other news, I like wine, too. Christ, we are going to have so much fun in Palm Springs.

Decorno said...

Amanda - you have photos of FRIED CHICKEN on your blog. How dare you! Now I am hungry. Again.

Kara said...

Yes - I have experienced this relationship phenomena and it bites. I can't stand my body and have signed up for 2 - count them DOS 5k's where I plan to walk and run my way back into the hot body I once had. DAMMIT!

How my skinny ankles don't break as I walk is a complete and total miracle. BTW, the ankles are about the only thing on this body that is skinny.

BTW - I love your blog! Have a blast in PS or as we in the SO CAL area like to call it - the surface of the sun.

Anonymous said...

Yes. A bad, bad birth control made me pile it on and I have been having a hell of a time getting it off because I find it harder to diet when I'm in a relationship. I don't know why. A lot more temptation I guess. :(

my little apartment said...

ooooooh yes. especially when my boyfriend was an amazing cook who loved to use butter and cheese in everything. it was like dating a hot version of Paula Deen.

but we just broke up three weeks ago and I'm working on the "wish you could have me back" body.

and yes, i have no willpower, especially when it comes to wine.

Anonymous said...

Ha- do I know what you are talking about? I have put on 70lbs in the 6yrs I have been married. I have a theory, though from a male perspective-
it all has to do with castration- eunichs are known for their weight gain, well, I theorize that even figurative castration (marriage) has the same affect.

erin said...

we've been together almost 8 years and we're both the same size as when we got together.

i hate palin. actually, i hate the people who like palin more.

alis said...

Yes I did, we both did. We couldn't get enough of each other and both lived with parents, so we ate outside 3 times a day. I didn'T realize how fucking fat I got until my summer pictures came out. A year of exercise and absolutely no eating out later I am back to my skinny self. And thank God he is too.

alis said...

Btw Kara you are lucky, when I gain weight it is distributed equally; arms-legs-ankles-cheeks-belly-fingers-love handles...

The Curmudgeon said...

Yup, about five pounds' worth. But my girlfriend is a chef, so I gotta tell you, that's five pounds that was oh-so-joyful to gain!

Be the change..... said...

I haven't, but my BF has! SHHH!!!

You think the stress of becoming VP makes you gain weight? Lets tell Palin that and maybe she'll reconsider!

Alex said...

Yes,and, oddly enough, no. I say oddly, because he is a professional chef who likes to make super rich and delicious food. I'm a very lucky woman. I think the main reason the answer is no, is that I ONLY eat food that he makes, which is all fresh from the farmers market and doesn't have preservatives. When he started at culinary school, he was at 200lbs, and after six months of eating 3,000 calories a day, but only stuff made from scratch, (and no exercise) he lost 50 of them. I'm telling you, fresh is the way to go!! Otherwise, I'd be an elephant by now...

Anonymous said...

haha Anon @9.02, was that me typing those words or did you take words right out of my mouth? I too have have gained 70 in 7 yrs of marriage.
I think I must have written that post in my other persona. :)

none said...

I see your "I hate Palin" and raise you one "I hate the flyover-state people who are conned by her."

Mint Julep said...

Maybe 15 lbs. But the husband prefers more meat. He's got good taste.

A Print A Day said...

nope. we've been together since 1998 and we're probably about the same weight and size.

David said...

None: not all of the flyover people have been conned. I'm a Kansas-born Missouri resident and my distaste for Ms. Palin and her kind rivals that of Decorno and Elaine.

To the original question, at one point I'd gained an inch in my waist for every year boyfriend. But due to some incredible work stress at the end of last year, and giving up drinking pop, I'm back down to a svelte 32.

Alex's comment seems to confirm what I've always suspected. It's not the fat, it's the chemicals.

An Aesthete's Lament said...

Yes. Add to that the addition of children and a deskbound job, and the expansion of one's waistline becomes a daily mortification.

Sarah said...

Yes, and Yes. My husband is an excellent and doting cook. I don't complain, but I do wish my pants would fit. :o) Also, the desk job doesn't exactly help the situation...

Anonymous said...

aesthete's lament,

I pictured you weighing 92 lbs. and wafting through your home trailing yards of 16th century silk.

Anonymous said...

I hate Palin too. Let's all fast in protest of Palin. Two birds with one stone and all that.

Anonymous said...

You bet my relationship is making me fat. 40lbs worth of fat in 4 years. At this rate I will be morbidly obese by my 10 year anniversary. My problem is he insists of a big evening meal at the kitchen table with the kids. AKA family meals. Can't we find a lower-calorie means of staying connected with them? Maybe something more productive like family housekeeping or family grass cutting?

Anonymous said...

Reading the comments, I would say that we may be overweight but really smart people. Hating Palin is a good sign of mental health too. I've been married 40 years and weigh too much, but I think I have some kind of excuse, I am a caregiver to a handicapped child ; that kind of ties you down and gets you down. Every time my child did not eat, I ate. And spending nearly twenty years of not sleeping through the night will do it to you.

Perfectly Disgraceful said...

Not really. I've been married thirteen years and the only thing that made me gain weight was pregnancy. The trick, for me, is eating small portions. I cannot give anything up for good, but I try to avoid my downfalls, like potato chips. No soda, ever, including diet. I also ride my bike to work (a sedate two-mile ride in work clothes, NOT cycling clothes) and have a three storey house that involves lots of running up and down stairs. And I prefer to drink my dessert because I can pretend that wine has no calories.

Really though? The reason I am only three pounds more than I was in my twenties? Because I am insanely vain. As much as I love food, and I really love food, I love clothes more.

As for Palin, thinking about her saying "guys and gals" in that accent sends me into a murderous rage.

Anonymous said...

My boyfriend actually injects me with fat, like those Butterball turkeys.

As soon as I figure out the best government agency to handle this, I am reporting him.

fashiongirl said...

Yup - gained and lost a total of about 30 pounds since I met the love of my life. The secret to getting thin again is this: (a) quit your high stress, annoying, cubicle job and (b) get out and MOVE, and (c) split all meals out. Trust me it works. I'm back to my pre-wedding weight after 20 years.

Mary T. said...

YES! I attribute to many things:
- I eat out a lot more than I used to when I was single.
- He likes a beer or two with TV each night. This has rubbed off on me.
- Before we met, I'd often just eat a bowl of cereal or whatever. Now it's like I don't know if I'm hungry or what -- one of us wants to eat, the other eats.

The big one is that I stopped exercising regularly. I used to go to a gym at 6 am throughout the week, but this meant I was in bed by 9:30. He had a job when we met where he didn't get off work until 9. I started to blow off going to the gym or I'd never get to see him...and so it begins!

We've recently cleaned up our act on the beer thing, at least.

Anonymous said...

Be the Change:

Your boyfriend is trying to make himself unattractive to you so you'll leave him. It's a classic passive-aggressive way of breaking up with someone.

Christine in DC said...

No, I am an independent woman. I am proud to say that I have gotten fat all on my own.

Fifi Flowers said...

OMG... I had to laugh at that photo and caption! GREAT photo! Still laughing!

judy said...

Yes. My boyfriend is a food pusher. It's not his fault, but it's annoying. (And it's a little bit his fault.)

Anonymous said...

i can out eat most people I know and i've lost weight in my 2 year long relationship. whateva

Anonymous said...

I bought my wedding dress, and three months later, I couldn't zip it up. The wedding has been pushed back a couple times just so I can be slimmish on my wedding day. I should just pay for the alteration, but oh, the dress looked so good...

I like the idea of fasting in protest of Palin.

Vanessa said...

No weight gain yet. One of the facets I really love about my boyfriend is that he is a very active person - so I go running a few times a week because it's just part of our routine. He's a great influence that way; my last BF was a lazy couch potato, and I'm easily influenced!
Now when we go on vacay, it's to hike, camp, bike...and this winter, sweet Jesus on a pogo stick, I'm going to learn how to ski. Imagine, if you will, a giraffe on rollerskates...

The log lady said...

As recently single - I confirm it is not a tip for loosing weight, just so you are warned!