Monday, June 29, 2009

Kind of incredible advice, really:

Some of you guys tease on Pen for her abuse of ellipses, but did you see what she wrote in comments a few posts ago? I mean, seriously. I love her.

"Just stop being indecisive....it will make you miserable for your entire life......so just stop it. it is easy. Make your first bold decision.....do it......."



What's the best advice anyone has ever given you?

54 comments:

susan said...

"a man can never make you happy. its your job to make yourself happy"

susan said...

it doesn't have to match, it has to go"

stacy london

(and above paraphrased from Maria Shriver's autobiography as spoken to her by Arnold Schwartznegger on their first date and story relayed to me by a stranger on a plane)

Anonymous said...

"you get what you get and you don't get upset" ~ a friend of a friend's preschool daughter

Anonymous said...

Learn something about everything, and everything about something.

Anonymous said...

You always get what you're ready for in relationships.

-old queen comforting (?) me after a break-up

Angie said...

get busy living or get busy dying!

Anonymous said...

Honor indecisiveness.

Seriously. My worst mistakes came from being decisive in a stupid, arbitrary, fear-based way.

Taking your time is underrated.

Newbie in MA said...

my grandfather's reply to me asking as a small child why you can't take more than one newspaper from the newspaper stand box; "once you open that door, you can never close it, so choose wisely" and it's always stayed with me.

Anonymous said...

My mother told me at the age of 18 that you have to be someone before you are someone's wife.

Anonymous said...

When I was in a relationship where the guy was treating me like crap, (well I was allowing it and wondering why and kept going back for more)a friends mother said, you will leave when you have seriously have had enough. "The relationship has to run its course." For some reason it clarified things for me.

terre said...

Don't look back and don't cry-malcom x

we live until we die-anon

stand up on your own two black feet and fight like hell for your place in this world---amy-jacque garvey

do what you can, where you are, with what you have-anon

the determination to outwit one's situation means that one has no models, only object lessons-james baldwin

strategy is better than strength--hausa proverb

be particular! -- my sweet gran

Anonymous said...

life is expensive - my dad

The Glamorous Housewife said...

"What would you do if you were not afraid?"

I find the fear of failure often stops me from doing things, so I ask myself the above question, answer it, and then do whatever I said I would do if I wasn't afraid, even though I would still be afraid. This advice has helped me get through the fear of getting married, having children, buying a home, and starting a business.

Kara said...

Live in the moment.

Paisley said...

Work smarter not harder- my husband

An Aesthete's Lament said...

"There's always something interesting to see, wherever you are." That's what Mark Hampton, interior decorator, told me that at lunch one day after I complained about having to go to some po-dunk town on business. Chagrined, I decided to be a bit more openminded after that—and he was right.

Anonymous said...

You can't please everyone so you gotta please yourself.

-Ricky Nelson, "Garden Party"

But seriously...SO TRUE. Get bent haters!

Reggie said...

"Downers get left behind"

Anonymous said...

"The best way to get on your feet is to get off your ass"

David said...

When I started high school my mother told me "Use your best judgment, and remember, nobody likes a prude."

Anonymous said...

"Don't get married till you graduate from college." This was my father's advice after I got engaged at a mere 21 years old, and I thought I knew everything. At the time I was very resentful and begrudgingly took his advice. 3 years later when my relationship fell apart just before I graduated, I realized that my father saved me from the biggest mistake. I'm gonna call and thank him right now!

Elizabeth said...

Don't drink anything blue...

RLG said...

"Do you really want to be friends with someone who is capable of treating you like shit for eight years?"

my wake-up call of my husband's sister

Anonymous said...

Just because it is offered to you
doesn't mean you have to take it. (advice given after I received my first job offer and was feeling desperate enough to take it even though it wasn't a good fit. I have heard this advice in my head for all sorts of occassions since then.)

If you have to borrow something from someone more than three times, it is time to get your own.

Never leave your house without enough money to get back by yourself. (advice given when I started dating. I view it as a call to independence to this day.)

- all from my grandmother

Decorno's BFF Elaine said...

"Pick your battles" Elaine's mommy.

That Other Jean said...

"One day at a time. Make a change. If you fail, make the same change again tomorrow."--Sister Mary Martha

Maison Luxe said...

Take Your Time

Jill said...

I abuse them too...

"Choose Life! Choose Love! Choose Health! Choose Happiness!"
Dr. Joseph Murphy

home before dark said...

"Use your mind, but follow your heart." My mother-in-law.

Anonymous said...

"Never have more kids than you can afford to take care of on your own"

"If you'll lie, you'll steal; if you'll steal, you'll kill"

-my sorely missed mom

Shirley said...

When I am afraid of making a decision my dad taught me to say to myself…"I am afraid to ____(fill in the blank) and I will do it anyway."

The word AND acknowledges your fear and allows you to be scared while still moving forward with an action.

It may sound silly, but it has worked for me many a time!

raine turner said...

"When you die your in-box will not be empty"
A lovely friend of mine told me this while I was sitting in my home office- pulling 'to-dos' out of my in-box and wondering how I would get it all done-- at the same time writing a list of things I needed to do!

Anonymous said...

Spend the Money.

(Sorry Magnaverde, sometimes decorating IS shopping.)

Anonymous said...

"There are worse things than not getting married."
My Mother
(At 24 i did get married and 31 years later I still am.)
Ann

Yup, I asked this question said...

What the fuck is an ellipse?

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susie q said...

"You failed? So what? Everyone fails. Mourn, get angry, then learn everything you possibly can from it and move on." -- my wise mother

And Yup, an ellipse is a dot-dot-dot. Like this: ...

Anonymous said...

From my mom:
1. when dealing with men... timing is everything.

2. when trying to decide what to do in a situation, my mom always says. In 10 years what will you wish you had done/chosen?

Anonymous said...

If you think you're having the time of your life.
You are.

Anonymous said...

"Live the life you want to live and you'll find someone to live it with you."


From a coworker before I moved to China for three years.

s. said...

"Neither a borrower nor a lender be!"

"Surround yourself with people who are bright, kind and bring out the best in you!"

"Stop using so many ellipses!" Well, okay. Nobody ever gave me that piece of advice, but I'm sorely tempted to give it to... someone.

(edited for typo correction)

Iheartfashion said...

Wallowing in self-pity is unattractive.
-my mom

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riye said...

"Forget about him--he's weak." Said in a tone of withering disgust by good old mom. (Thanks mom!)

Anonymous said...

You can't control what happens to you, only how you react to it.

My mom, when she was fighting for her life against cancer.

Susan

Anonymous said...

Don't steal more chain than you can swim with

Bonnie said...

My very handsome and intelligent Finance Prof in college... "Make sure you stash away enough money to say *insert swear word* buh-bye! (to a boss, a job, a relationship, etc. should things go really bad.) We dated after that class and after i graduated!

Anonymous said...

"When life hands you lemons, stuff them in your bra."
-friend from high school

"Don't burn your bridges."

Feisty said...

"Drive the backroad." - My dad

Means go the pretty, slower way. Smell the roses, yada yada.

I also take it to mean, if there's an interesting way to do something and the same way everyone else does it, I pick the interesting.

Anonymous said...

I don't know about the best advice that I ever got, but this is the advice I give people all the time. "Happiness is a choice" I don't know when or how I came to believe that, but it helps me in my life everyday. Whenever I feel unhappy I think of what a blessing and a miracle it is that of all the zillions of people in the world (there are zillions, right?) I get to be an American. AND everytime I turn the faucet on, I get running water, and everytime I flip that switch on the wall, a light comes on, and I get to sleep in an apartment with a blanket and a roof over my head EVERY NIGHT of my life. And I love New York and my family and myself. What's not to be happy?

nicole said...

"Never loan anyone more money than you are willing to give them."

Anonymous said...

"Lifes journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to skid in sideways, totally worn out, shouting "HOLY SHIT...what a ride!"

I found a picture on the net with that saying taped to the side of a building and I have it hanging right in front of my computer.

The saying I always use is "this to shall pass"

propriatress said...

my Yountville elementary school principal and 6th grade teacher, Wilda Addis, told us kids to "Keep your Wits about you"...Miss Addis, I try, really I do...and the dot dot dot is my writing trademark.

the gardeners cottage said...

Happiness is an inside job.