Thursday, June 21, 2012

Girls.




"In order of importance: 1.Self, 2. Marriage, 3. Child. Of course all are as important as each other, but neglecting the one before is a disservice to the one after."

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13 comments:

Anonymous said...

I love her. I mean yeah, maybe pretentious, but somehow simultaneously... real.

ginafly said...

Wow. That whole website presents motherhood in such a beautiful, stylish, and idealized way. And I still don't want it. So that's helpful for me to note.

Anonymous said...

I didn't read it. I just find that actress endlessly beautiful, endlessly watchable. (And I'm a gay guy.)

Richie Designs said...

what a refreshing look at being a parent. I love that self is first. I see so many women put themselves last and 7 or 8 years into it have a huge life melt down.

Anonymous said...

though i agree w/the priority ranking in principle, by flipping thru her blog i came to see her as extraordinarily self-involved/indulgent. good luck to that kid.

Anonymous said...

I am with ginafly - yeah it seemed sweet but I did not yearn for it half as much as some of the coffee tables that you have featured. oh and I am not a gay guy.

Anonymous said...

oh and I am not a gay guy.

But you will be after I get done with you.

Kit in DC said...

the narcissism is breathtaking. take my life, style it, prop it and photoshop it, then sell my family as "lifestyle" arbiters. good gig. also a little troubled by the visual fetishizing of woman as madonna/mother ... does anyone do any work in this world or is just soft-core fantasy of being a "stylish" parent? Give me furniture porn any day over this.

Decorno said...

Kit - I agree with you 100%.

amvance said...

stellar marketing!

Anonymous said...

For me, it's child, self, spouse.
I think people who put self first maybe shouldn't have the child. It's not everybody's cup of tea, but some people feel pressured to pretend it is.

Decorno said...

I think people really get hung up on the order of things. It's like marrying into step kids and asking your new husband (or wife) if you will come first or the kids will. I don't think there is a 1 & 2 for that. It's sort of both.

But the idea behind it, don't you think, is that you can't become so over involved in your kid that you stop taking care of yourself or having an adult life. Balance.

Anonymous said...

as a mom who could have as easily not had kids and totally understands those who make that decision not too, I think once you have had them (it wasn't their choice) they gotta come first...having said, that neglecting yourself does them no favors, and sets a bad example of self worth.